Ok tough situation here and I need some outside perspective. For years my parents have been talking about taking my kids, my wife and I to Florida/Disney. They have been very excited about doing this, and so have my kids. They were looking forward to sharing the experience with my kids as my mom has never flown before or obviously been to Disney. They wanted to experience it through my kids eyes. They have been holding off on scheduling anything because my Mom's knee has been getting bad and she will be having it replaced in August/September and wanted to get through the surgery and see what she felt like after. About 2 weeks ago, My wife's Grandmother passed away. Then about a week ago my father in law tells my wife that he has been thinking or taking the whole family (us, brother in law and girlfriend, sister in law/husband/3 kids) to Disney for years and, with the passing of his mom, decided time is too short and wants to do it Early next year. He had no idea my parents had been talking about taking us, but now my parents are hurt because they wanted to experience this with my kids. They wanted to take them because they hadn't been there and if we go with my wife's dad, my parents likely wont be taking us because the kids have already experienced this. Plus they had been making a big deal about this to my kids and now someone else will take them first. This is causing a lot of tension in the house because my wife thinks my parents are being selfish. She has tried to think of compromises like saving Magic Kingdom for when we go with my parents, but my parents have said they likely will not take us since we will have already been there. Is she right? are they selfish? Maybe, but if hurts me that she cant even see their point. They have been looking forward to this for years and it would have at least been nice to tell her dad "hey my mom and dad have been talking about taking us for awhile, let me see when they were planning on going to make sure there are no conflicts.": In fact, something that simple may have made the situation easier, because now it's like we are picking her family over my own. Mind you we already spend more time with my wifes family and have already gone on a vacation with my wife's family to visit other relative in Louisiana. Am I wrong here? If I am I may actually feel better. I just don't know how I am supposed to enjoy this trip when I will know my parents are miserable at home. Especially when my wife keeps bringing it up. Sorry to get so deep here, but really need some advice. The way we have been fighting about this isn't good and I need some perspective to be sure I am not overreacting or just blindly supporting my mom and dad. If nothing else, thanks for letting me vent.