The difference is our access to such stuff. It was unacceptable long ago, too, but unless it was made public (Cosell, Al Campanis, Jimmy the Greek), there was no uproar. Gruden knew that, too, since he filtered it from the public and only shared his racism, homophobia and misogyny with someone he knew to be "safe". Though Bruce Allen couldn't have been the only one to see the real Gruden. Who else in the league and at ESPN was part of his circle of trust?