It is usually the bachelor's wife that puts the kibbash on it. That is correct. My fiancee has already put the kibbash on it for mine. And I am totally okay with it, I have been to strip clubs and if she doesn't want me to go to one for my bachelor party fine by me. It's all my buddies that were dissapointed, not me. I just want to get drunk, golf and watch a Brewers game while enjoying the company of my friends.