I can't wait till I am married with my own house and family, because then I can stay home. Yeah, sorry, NMF, but splitter's right. Unless your future wife's family (or yours) is extraordinarily flexible, the balancing act just gets harder. Though technically, you could just opt to stay home and offend everyone equally. http://forum.brewerfan.net/images/smilies/wink.gif Or do the hosting every holiday, which can be a lot of work. Spinning off this... It bugs me that we spend half of our Thanksgivings and every Christmas on the road. On the S.O.'s side of the family, we are the only ones who don't live in The Hometown, so it's always easier to make us drive than to make everyone else drive to Madison. Not that we could fit them all in our house anyway, but since becoming homeowners in 1993 we have spent exactly one Christmas Eve in our own house (that was due to illness). I'd like to have a Christmas not involve hundreds of miles put on the car in a 30-36 hour period. My side of the family is more willing to take turns hosting, so we occasionally get to stay home for a Thanksgiving. But with my brother and sister both having young families now, it's harder for them to travel, and always perceived as "easier" for the non-parents. So it's still usually the car for us. Also (bear with me, guys, I'm on a roll)... The other reason our house is the last considered for holiday gatherings on my side of the family is because we have two cats and my brother is allergic to cats. I can understand that. Yet on the S.O. side of the family, no one ever vetoes the house with the three chain smokers on a physical comfort basis. I am literally still coughing today after spending five hours there yesterday.