RoCo, I can relate to everything in your post except for the ornery temperament. I went through all the rest of it, however, before having my dog put down a couple of weeks ago. Casey was five weeks short of fifteen; your dog seems to be going through this at a somewhat more typical age for a dog that size. I recall a chart at one of the vets saying that these particular dogs are geriatric at age ten. As far as the urination, chances might be that it's due to decreased kidney function. That isn't necessarily as horrific as it sounds. Test don't detect a deficiency until the animal is at about 35% of normal function. 10% function is what's necessary to survive. Still, when tests detect a decrease, adjustments are likely in order. When my dog started having indoor urine accidents about two years ago, the vet put him on a prescription kidney diet, and things shaped up very nicely. His body just wasn't processing protein very well. In addition to a kidney diet, you should avoid giving her much in the way of extra meat and potassium--and definitely avoid salt. Just to be safe, I'd make sure Casey went outside every time I thought urination was even crossing his mind--especially when someone came to the door. Other than that, we were back to a basically normal routine. You might see some improvement with prescription pain medication. My dog was taking three drugs over his final four months. Metacam was expensive; the other two were in the ten cent a pill range and could be filled by the local pharmacist. It's possible that your vet might also recommend Rimadyl; that's also a fairly pricey med. When I say pricey, I mean in the one to two dollar a day range for a dog of a lab's weight. (You won't get both Metacam and Rimadyl; they don't 'play well' together. I had to take Casey off Rimadyl for a week before starting Metacam. He was given something else to hold him over.) Medication helped, and usually, if Casey had a bad day, he'd show improvement the next day. While this isn't applicable to you, the warm weather helped a ton. Ice was a real hazard. Casey 'retired' from stairs about a year ago. Around Christmas, he could still do a couple of steps and could jump in the car with a bit of a boost. I'd say it was around March when I started seeing what you appear to be seeing. One thing that really helped his quality of life was that it was very practical to adapt my house for him. He lived in the living room and bedroom. Rooms with hard (slippery) floors were blocked off. And luckily, the step from my driveway to the front door is about two inches high. In short, any adaptations you can make can only help. You're going to definitely have to talk to the vet. Phone advice is free. S/he'll probably want you to take the dog in, and that makes sense. I'd guess that it's possible that temperament could improve if the animal is able to feel more comfortable. Good luck with all this. I know exactly what you're experiencing. In addition to the dog being frustrated and you being frustrated, you're going to have to listen to people telling you what you should be doing. General advice is fine. Hearing 'you should be putting the dog to sleep' isn't. Others don't see the dog day in and day out; only people living in the household with the animal will know when the time comes for that.