hey folks. Last September I met a fantastic lady and we started dating. While I was 26 (now 27), she was my first girlfriend. She also has a 5 year old (almost 6). After an amazing 7 months, yesterday I told her that I think I had to let her go find someone else. We had zero fights. We got along great. But last week she asked me a question..."how come whenever we have plans to go somewhere--the three of us--you find an excuse not to go?" I pondered it all week, and on Thursday it hit me. I think I loved the arrangement as it was. She and I were in love, and saw eachother roughly 6-7 days per week. I got to see the kid quite a bit, and I care a lot about him. I go to his basketball games and practices, and sometimes pick him up from school. But in the end, I think I like seeing him, knowing that when he has a rough day (he has a VERY defiant streak) I can go home. It's like having a niece or nephew...they're fun when they're good, but they're not my problem. So after enjoying his game, then seeing his dad take him for the weekend, she and I had a great day. But as the day went on, talk turned to the future. And it started to eat at me on the inside, knowing that in the previous few days I'd been wondering if I could ever live with him. I knew that I could marry her, as I love her VERY much. But I just don't think I'm ready to commit to having him full-time So yesterday afternoon I confessed to her that I liked him very much, but I think the reason I don't want to take even day trips with him is because I'm just not ready to be a father. If that's the case, then perhaps my wonderful girlfriend (whom I planned to marry) should move on and find someone that can be there for both her and her son. In the end, I can be there for her, and always love her. But since I cannot guarantee that I'll be able to be perfect for her son, then perhaps she should move on. As of now, I have a few days to figure things out. She's hoping that my commitment to the kiddo changes. But I think I'm coming to terms that it won't, and a woman that I truly love will be moving on, in part because the situation just isn't right. Any thoughts? Did I do the right thing?