I have three daughters (24, 22, 19) and a son (17). All three excelled in softball / baseball and all excelled in soccer. My wife and I were very good at sports in our high schools and in our free time we would always do something sports or outdoor related. So our family DNA was built around being active and competitive. My oldest daughter was a pitcher and dominating people in the local muni league. At that point, we were directed to her playing in a select program. My other two daughters were in the same boat. All three excelled and all three got numerous letters to play college softball. My oldest pitched for one year at a D3 school, but opted out of it. Soccer ended up being cast out due to a lack of enjoyment. My son, still in high school, loves football but doesn't play all that much (is the field goal kicker, though). He is also a very good baseball player. I bring this up because I think my wife and I were in the "they just need an opportunity and they will get a college scholarship" mode. As they reached high school, social aspects became very important and various injuries prevented each of them from moving on. Fortunately, or man focus over sports was academics. This has been a blessing. My advice would be repeating what many people have already said: Let kids be kids. If they love the game but are bored with the players they are playing with because they are afraid to throw the ball too hard, etc., look for something else. Yes, it is a lot of money at times, but the memories built as a family going to these events (yes, it was tough with four children) will be brought up when they enter adulthood. It can also be a time for parents to meet other parents and get out of their bubble. Some coaches (especially in academy sports) will poo-poo academics. My brother wrestled at a top 20, D1 school on scholarship and let it go because they wanted him to focus on wrestling, not on school. Now, he is a director at a hospital. If your child gets hurt, they can "fall back" on academics. Sports should be a teaching tool about life. Teamwork, hard work, accepting victory and failure are all things that are a byproduct. There will come times where they will want to walk away. I would like to say let them walk or force them to play. Use it as a teachable moment. Some of my daughters have told me, "If I only would have done X in softball..." meaning they regret not doing more. However, if my wife and I would have pushed them, it would have driven a wedge between us -- not worth it in my opinion. I have many more stories, but I'll stop now. Love your kids for who they are even if they only hit .010