Thanks for all of the advice. We ended up meeting last friday and came to the conclusion that we would file for divorce sometime soon, not have much contact and see where we are later on. Man this is tough. We both love each other. It's just that some stuff has festered for too long, which makes it that much harder. I have to respect her decision. I maybe naive but we've decided to file together and split everything down the middle. At first she was offering me alot more of the assets. Now after the weekend she's hinting that it might not be that fair, which I can respect. I was thinking that all along. For anyone who may go through this at any time in the future, all I can say is be prepared. I thought i'd been through a lot in my life but I've never felt these kinds of emotions. I don't think I've ever cried so much in my life. I'm not embarrassed to say it. From what I've read, a person has to embrace it and let all of your emotions out. My friends have been life savers. I never realized how a simple email or call everyday from one friend could support you so much. Madscientist, thank you for the advice on the support group. I'd never thought of that.