Wow, that's rough. I think having your parents split up is distressing at almost any age. I haven't felt the same about my father (who indicated that he wanted to end his marriage by leaving) since the day my mom told us about it in the summer of 1979. I was 13 at the time. Sometimes I felt a bit envious of my sister, who was young enough then to not really remember our "intact" household. The pending loss of your childhood home is a real loss, too, whether related to divorce or other factors Of the places I lived as a child, my favorite house by far was the one where we lived during my teen years - which my mother had to sell while I was in college because she couldn't afford to keep it up after my dad left (and rarely paid support). I found that transition difficult, even though I wasn't living there full-time anymore. I remember my dad stopping by for the last of his things shortly before we left that house; I was the only one at home at the time, so I had to talk to him, and he was making offhand comments about how my mom shouldn't be selling such a nice house. I longed to point out that maybe she could have stayed there had he fulfilled his court-ordered child support obligation - but for various reasons, I thought better of it. Since then, I've always envied people who still had access to their childhood homes. My grandparents owned the same house in Janesville for about 75 years, and that place was a comfort to visit until my grandpa died and it had to be sold. Two years ago, my mom moved out of the smaller house (the one she left my beloved house for), and even that stung a bit. Though I didn't really ever reside in that house, it was still my connection to the town where I went to high school - and now we have no reason to visit there. And geez, your dog even. You are really hitting the "loss" trifecta (not that you need to be told that). Is there no way she could join you in Portland? Would it be worth your moving to a place that allows dogs? Or is it at least possible for you to get back to Wisconsin for a chance to say goodbye? That might make me maddest of all. My family's had its share of trials and tribulations, but man, we never turned our backs on a pet. (Though giving her to a family is obviously better than just letting her loose or something.) Anyway - you're neither crazy nor alone for feeling kicked in the gut over things like this. I hope the experiences shared in this thread help you manage these losses.