so i don' t mix up which families, i'll go with older idea and newer idea. the newer idea side seems to just want to do something big, not specifically Disneyland, but it was the first and obvious thing that came to mind. The older idea side has been dreaming of this for a long time, so that would seem to hold at least some weight. however the latest offer by the other side should be pressure enough to get the other side to stop dragging their feet (not meant in a derogatory way). it's been a dream, so now it's time to buy the tickets, or else the newer side will. knee bad? they'll have those motorized chairs available for her to use with a heads up, no problem. this way the older side at least is given the first option to realize this dream. if they get the tickets, then thank the newer idea side for wanting to do something big and work together to think of a Plan B. if the newer side just can't get the tickets at this time, at the very least they couldn't be quite as upset if they were at least given the first opportunity to go. am i right in assuming the newer idea side just wants to do something big for the family and not definitely-specifically Disneyland?