Dear Younger NMF: I'm writing to you as your older self. Nearly 13 years have passed since the 2009 version was 16, and I'm here to tell you that a lot will change. First and foremost, as you go on in your high school life, try to ignore any desire you have to want to date anyone in high school. You will waste your time; wait until college...it is much better, believe me. If you ignore that advice, don't ask the people you did to prom. Instead, ask who you really want to go with, but whom you think already has a date (she doesn't at the time you want to ask her). The friends you have now won't be the friends you end up with as a senior. The group your senior year will be with you for many years to come, and two of them will stand up in your wedding. Speaking of friends, the people you will meet in college will be some of the best, most fun people you will ever meet. When it comes to picking a career, don't listen to dad. If you follow what he says, you won't be happy. I started out with what dad wanted me to do, and I hated it, and it nearly caused me to drop out of college. He sees the dollar signs and that's it. You may not end up getting full time work until your lates 20s, but you'll be happy. Over the course of your 20s, people will constantly ask if you know what your doing...and those people will be your family. Your sister will hit the major life steps a lot earlier than you, but you will get to see a lot of different places, make great friends, experience a lot of stuff, and be a better person in the long run because of it. There will be some highs and lows, but it's ok. By the way, mom will get crazier than she is now. Be warned, there will be a couple of quasi-traumatic events in your life. They may not be traumatic to other people, but they are to you. The same thing that happens to you in late July 1999 will happen to your future wife in July 2006. It's a very strange coinsidence. You'll be fine, as will she, but you will be emotionally scarred for a long time. Go to the Brewer game on September 28, 2008. You will have the chance to buy tickets, but for some stupid reason you decline. The thing that happens will almost make you cry. Don't stop playing baseball. You will miss it dearly when you are 28. Overall, you will change some, but it's all for the good. You will be more laid back and easy going than you are now. But if stuff does bother you, talk about it. Learn that skill. Get a job, now! You need to save money now so you don't have to borrow from mom and dad. Lastly, don't eat so much frozen pizza when you get out of the dorms, and don't buy so much junk when you are in college. Enjoy the next 13 years, and read this when you are 28 to see what you did. Write to me then, when I'll be 41. I'll talk to you then, NMF (2009 version)