This, like so many things in baseball, is riding a fine line. Of course pulling a Nuke Laloosh and hitting the bull is a bit different at the Major League level. Even if it was a mistake, Ramirez needs to be better and having a few games to think about his life is a good idea.
What would have happened if he came a little inside and hit grazed Hoskins? How about a slider that didn't break as much or did actually get away? If Hoskins gets hit in any way against the Mets, would it be an immediate trip to the showers? No, it shouldn't. Then again, Ramirez shouldn't be fighting it and should say to McNeil, "I got your back. Now, buy me a steak." 😉