Are there any other parents out here that have children in the 2-3.5 y/o range? My son is 3 months short of 3 years old and is obviously right in the middle of the terrible two's. He is learning phrases like "shut up" and "I hate you" at daycare of late and those seem to be getting to my wife and I. He also insists on doing everything by himself and if we try to help with anything like putting his socks/shoes on he throws himself on the floor and screams bloody murder! Honestly, this may sound cold, but about the best procedure for that problem is to physically prompt your child through that response multiple times. That is, if he throws a fit when being assisted through putting on his jacket, you (without delivering eye contact or saying a word) "assist" him in putting on his jacket over and over again until he stops crying and throwing a tantrum. Then, prompt the appropriate response: "I want to do it myself". This way, he learns that he'll never get what he wants by throwing himself on the floor, but will get what he wants by calmly asking for it. If that approach doesn't fit your parenting philosophy, a time out may be just as effective. I know that patience is a virtue but I mine is starting to fray a bit. Do any of you have any tips or tricks on how you were able to break these types of habits? I'm not much of the "I'll give you a treat if you stop doing that" type but I am willing to try almost anything. Bargaining with a child once he has engaged in problem behavior is a recipe for absolute disaster. This teaches him that once he's behaving inappropriately, he will be able to access fun things that he wouldn't have been offered if he were good to begin with. Never allow a child to earn the same desired items and activities they can get when they're good during or shortly after episodes of problem behavior. Think about it, if your boss only offered you a raise to shut you up after you acted like a jerk in a meeting and then called in sick 4 days in a row, you'd have good reason to act like an awful employee. If he only gave you a raise after you'd completed a huge task flawlessly ahead of schedule, you'll probably continue to try to be a model worker. You have to stand your ground, even if that is in a public place when bad behavior can make it that much more frustrating. Absolutely. Never, EVER, state that a consequence will be delivered when it will not. If you do, your verbal consequences and statements will have little to no effect, thus, you'll need to mechanically deliver any consequences for them to be effective. Once your child learns "if daddy says no cartoons, that means no cartoons". you'll be able to lay down rules they'll follow because your rules mean something and aren't hollow words. If you do this effectively, you'll spend way less time yelling and putting your child in time out. On the topic of time out, while it's a very effective procedure, it has to be implemented correctly. Time out means time out from everything, and that includes your attention - physical, eye contact, even reprimands. When time out is warranted, tell the child calmly and dryly "No [problem behavior], time out". Escort them to a designated area where they don't have access to fun things, and make them sit there for a designated period. Research shows that behavior-based (child gets out X minutes after problem behavior ceases) and time-based (time out ends after set time, regardless of behavior during time out) are equally effective. At the end of the time out, calmly state, "your time out is over. [restate rule, such as 'no hitting']". I pretty much go 3-minutes across the board for my clients and adjust accordingly (severe problems require stronger consequences). The hardest part is actually enforcing it if they do not comply, so the key is choosing things you are comfortable with. Yeah, you've gotta follow through, never threaten a consequence you can't deliver. Always remember that ignoring means acting as if the child is not there. If you're making eye contact or acknowledging his presence at all, you aren't ignoring. For those fits in the store because the kid wants something, you have to either give in IMMEDIATELY, or never give in at all. If you give in immediately, you do reinforce problem behavior, but you reinforce a very brief problem behavior that will not last an hour next time when he can't get it. The child will then learn, "either daddy gives in as soon as I cry, or he'll never give in", so he'll only cry for a few seconds and then give up when he didn't get what he wants. There's a valid parallel between problem behavior in children and gambling. If they never pay off, the gambler never gambles and the kid never tantrums. If they pay off randomly, behaviors are strong because the next coin, the next tantrum, could produce the jackpot. Be a broken slot machine and your kid will stop pumping in quarters.