I'll chime in as a father of a 15 month old. I agree with others that "it's not about you", but you still need to find time. One thing that helps my wife and I a lot is we try to do a once a week "date night". When he was a newborn, this was pretty much impossible, but after a few months, it's doable. It requires finding a good network of baby sitters, etc. Sometimes this is easier said than done, but we've found a lot of good people to rely on.