Thank you for all the responses. My parents were married for 20 years and all of a sudden I come home and my mother tells me she's divorcing my father. I did not see it coming at all. I was also in college at the time 225 miles away. That's my situation, except a bit farther away (not that that really matters). I think that's one thing that stings so much -- it's not a mutual desire to split, though at this point it may as well be, since there's nothing anyone or my father can do. My best advice would be to let them have their space and not try to get involved, because in reality it isnt your place. I've really been staying away from all this, probably to my own detriment. I still have yet to talk with my mother about 'things', because I am trying myself to work away from just lumping all blame on her. And geez, your dog even. You are really hitting the "loss" trifecta (not that you need to be told that). Is there no way she could join you in Portland? Would it be worth your moving to a place that allows dogs? Or is it at least possible for you to get back to Wisconsin for a chance to say goodbye? I really don't see how we could take her here, sadly -- but believe me, I've wondered any possible way for this to happen. My sister is living in Madison right now, and voluteered to take our dog... I haven't been able to talk with my father yet to find out why he feels he needs to make this decision another way. I guess I'll have to think about how or if I can get home to see my dog, and on a certain level, I guess this equates to jwill being 'more' pissed about his game of Commando. http://forum.brewerfan.net/images/smilies/smile.gif Thank you again. It has been very helpful to read through your kind & thoughtful remarks. I will probably take you guys up on the PM offers, but perhaps not today.