Get people you know to do stuff for you. We had our wedding at my wife's family's home church, and one of their neighbors was the organist, so that was basically free. We had her uncle who is a professional photographer take our pictures, and he gave those to us for free as a wedding gift. We had the reception at the local KC hall, and I don't remember the exact cost, but it was pretty affordable. The DJ we had was just starting his business, and I think only cost like $500 for the night. The iPod idea is pretty viable nowadays, too. Sorry if that is not so helpful...I do think it's kind of silly to overspend on a wedding. A lot of that money would be better spent on a down payment on a house, IMHO (like JumpinMacFlash said). I do recommend that if you do the traditional reception, keep the food options relatively simple. I would say to try and leave out some food during the entire reception (even if it's just cheese and crackers or something), and free tap beer is always a plus. At my sister's wedding, they took the food away shortly after the wedding party got there (which I was part of), and I was starving by the end of the night. At our own wedding, we had free open bar all night, but that was sort of a surprise present from my dad. As far as cake, we had the local bakery just make a fancy "top piece", and then bought several sheet cakes. Pretty affordable. I would also second not doing a formal gift opening. We did one, and I could tell by that point most people just wanted to get heading home, the day after the reception. It's kind of silly to sit there opening cards and thanking people, when most would rather just get a thank you card in the mail, I'd think.