I just got out of a similar situation. My wife and I live in Oshkosh and I commuted to Milwaukee everyday for work for about 2 years. She teaches at UW-O. I finally had enough of the commute and opened my own business here in Oshkosh (Law Office, if you need me http://forum.brewerfan.net/images/smilies/wink.gif) and I could not be happier. Highway 41 is a really easy drive, but last winter was brutal and I risked it many times making that trip in weather that I should not have been driving in. Then summer hits, and hello construction. Having lived a similar experience, I would recommend living as close to one of your jobs (the one the two of you are most likely to keep long term) as you can. Nobody wins when you both have to commute 30-45 minutes everyday. Plus, there is something to be said about being a member of your local community and really getting to know your neighbors and the people who live in your town. When I was commuting to Milwaukee (80 miles, one way; 1 hour 20 mins) I left at 7:00 and got home at 7:00 and did not know a soul in town outside of my family. Just looking at a map, the city that sticks out to me is West Bend. It is big enough to not seem like a small town, close to Milwaukee/Grafton/Mequon and near the intersection of 45/41. It is probably the same distance for her to get to work as it would be from Germantown, and keep in mind, Germantown is relatively small, only about 15k people. In West Bend she could take 45 south to 60 to work, and you take 33 to 41. It is a really tough decision to make, you are better off not buying ANYTHING until you get a feel for commutes and such. Perhaps you could find a job teaching in the area and eliminate one commute all together.