It was intended to be harsh, to get my point across. Sometimes hurtful does as much good as helpful, I don't think he did the right thing, he asked for opinions and I gave one. He doesn't know me from Adam, so my opinion really shouldn't matter much. It is just a flipside to the "man of the year" post. You said that you have been dating a single mom for 2 years, if you tell her tomorrow that you really don't want to be a father to her kids, what do you think she says? You think she forgets something like that? This is a situation where he should have asked for advice before he did something, not after. If he expects every relationship to have no problems, he will be anyways. Having to deal with an occasional troublesome child, outweighs all the positive things? I find that ridiculous, that is running from a problem. This is the love of his life we are talking about, he had the choice of embracing a large part of her life, and helping him grow, or walking away...I don't agree with the choice. I don't proclaim to know him, or how he thinks, but once again opinions were asked for, and I gave my perspective. In the future, I will make sure to water them down so as not to offend. My apologies if I hurt your feelings, DHonks.